April 27, 2008...4:19 pm
Surprise, You’re In My Sex Blog
Chances are that if you’re of the male sex and we’ve chatted about sex, dating, relationships, or we’ve actually experimented with one of the three, then you’ll make an appearance in an entry in some way, shape, or form. This really shouldn’t be shocking; I’m a blogger and I’m open about it.
Lately the same conversation keeps happening…
Man: You’re probably going to blog about this.
Me: I might <wink>.
Man: Just make sure to keep me anonymous.
Me: Of course.
A few weeks later…
Man: I can’t believe you actually blogged about me.
Me: You knew that I had this blog, and I warned you that you might make an appearance. Didn’t I keep your identity private?
Man: Well I really thought that our moments were private.
Me: Our moments are private. For the most part, I strip you out of the content completely and only take the circumstances that I can apply to bigger trends or broader subjects.
Why I Do What I Do
My intentions are never to use the relationships or situations that I find myself in for good content, traffic, or comments. I’m really not that shallow, nor do I think my life to be that interesting. At the very core of my being is a writer, who enjoys the beauty of the written word and the blogging platform as a means to reach a larger audience. I blog for several reasons, but for the most part what you read here is the product of the following:
- I’m an overly analytical person. I never have just a passing thought, and when it comes to relationships and men, I tend to obsess over every single detail. The easiest way for me to make sense of a situation is to write about it. Blogging helps me release the overwhelming thoughts that eat away at my sanity.
- When I experience something that I think has implications beyond my immediate situation, I love to extract my moment in time and compare it against the millions of other moments that resemble my own. It’s not that I think I have any more experience or wisdom then the next person, it’s just that if I can find a pattern, I can come to some type or resolution.
I completely understand that most men would rather not turn on their laptop to find a blog entry about their sexual encounters with me. In fact, I usually avoid getting overly personal, and I never reveal anyone’s identity unless they’ve already expressed that they’re comfortable being a subject. What frustrates me to no end, though, is that there are men who seek me out because they appreciate the quality of my writing or the candidness of my blog, and yet these same men want to be excluded from something they know is a huge part of my life.
Is it unreasonable for me to blog about the men in my life? I certainly don’t think so. If anything, if you’re featured in an entry on Content Dynasty, you should take a little satisfaction in knowing that you’ve made a big enough impression on my life and mind that I felt compelled to write about it.
3 Comments
April 27, 2008 at 7:33 pm
it is not unreasonable.
In fact, I told a girl who said she was nervous she’d end up on my blog that I was no longer interested her because the girl I want will be excited to appear on my blog.
If you’re on my blog it means you were meaningful, it means I want to share the magic we had with the world because its good. I suppose some girls just want a one night stand that will never be mentioned again. I don’t want those kind ;p
I’m down with one night stands, but only if they’re meaningful damnit.
April 28, 2008 at 7:26 pm
certainly not unreasonable. especially since you’ve been upfront and fairly transparent about the relationship you have with your blog…and those other relationships, too.
and at least those guys still have a choice. think about all those proud parents blogging about their kids. and if you want to find one of those types, you can just look at me. my son certainly wasn’t given a choice when i blogged about the time he puked banana all over himself on the way to a playdate.
in fact, im thinking all the funny looks he’s giving me while i’m giving him a bath are “you’re not going to blog this, are you?”
April 28, 2008 at 7:33 pm
@Seth @J.J. I appreciate the comments. I think every guy wants to feel special. They must think, “she won’t blog about me, this is different.” So maybe I’m not being unreasonable, but I must be doing something to make these guys think they’re exempt from being blogged about.
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